People Will Remember How You Made Them Feel | Carrie Grimes | 9 Min Read

April 10, 2023

How can the science of emotion empower us as school leaders?

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ~Dr. Maya Angelou

Who was a teacher or coach who made you feel seen and known? 

When I quietly reflect upon this question, I’m lucky enough to recall a kaleidoscope of faces from my childhood growing up in Madison, New Jersey and Annapolis, Maryland. Mrs. Carl, Mr. White, Miss Luckman, Mrs. Brown, Mrs. Ebbe, Mr. Pasquale, Mrs. Mallen, and Mr. Johnston…  I’m even luckier that I was afforded the opportunity to experience similar feelings of care and connection as an adult learner, in my graduate school experiences with my professors Drs. Cannon, Doyle, and Quinn-Trank. These are some of my superheroes, and a large part of the reason I’ve dedicated my professional life to working in school communities. These people made me feel seen. They made me feel valued when it mattered most. They filled my sails with essential winds along my educational journey. 

As I’ve inhabited more schools throughout my lifetime, as both teacher and student, I’ve come to…

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Carrie Grimes

Dr. Carrie Grimes is an Assistant Professor at Vanderbilt University in the Department of Leadership, Policy, and Organizations and is the Director of the Independent School Leadership master’s program at Vanderbilt’s Peabody College of Education and Human Development. Her research focuses on social identity and community within independent school settings and adult professional learning environments. Prior to her appointment at Vanderbilt, Carrie served on the faculties at Johns Hopkins School of Education and the University of Maryland College of Education. Carrie spent 20 years in independent school leadership, including roles in administration, teaching, counseling, and institutional advancement in schools and programs in California and Maryland. Carrie holds a B.A. in English from the University of Pennsylvania, an M.A. in Applied Psychology from New York University, and a doctorate in education from Vanderbilt.