One of the most common questions I get in my work as a speaker and consultant on digital health and well-being is about digital monitoring. Should we monitor? Which platforms or tools are best? What if we choose not to monitor our teens’ screens? The question of monitoring is deeply personal. Every child is different and may need different levels of support and intervention with their screens. I encourage families to get to know parental controls, filters, and digital supports that exist. Spend time vetting them and seeing if and how they can work to support your family. But what is more important to me than monitoring is that we’re not using blocks and controls to replace our parenting.
One of my favorite sayings that I once saw hanging on a sign in a public library is, “There’s No App To Replace Your Lap”. This reminds me that our humanness is what our kids and teens need most of all and we cannot outsource our parenting. We still need to be focused on the relationship, the digital citizenship education of the child and be engaged in conversations about experiences, mistakes, and expectations online. However, digital monitoring can support our…